Last week I had this conversation with a colleague. We discussed whether it was just as important for others to see your worth, reward you when necessary, show appreciation, or create a seat at their table and invite you to sit.
For me, I thought, let us get real here; as much as we would “all” want to see or enjoy this reality, maybe we should focus on “taking our power back.”
Rather than asking for individuals to “see” and recognize you, reward and appreciate you, tell you how much you are worth, or give you a seat at their table, why don’t you say:
“𝙒𝙝𝙚𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙧 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙡𝙞𝙠𝙚 𝙞𝙩 𝙤𝙧 𝙣𝙤𝙩, 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙗𝙚𝙩𝙩𝙚𝙧 𝙜𝙚𝙩 𝙬𝙞𝙩𝙝 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙥𝙧𝙤𝙜𝙧𝙖𝙢,”
“𝙒𝙝𝙚𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙧 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙘𝙝𝙤𝙤𝙨𝙚 𝙩𝙤 𝙘𝙚𝙡𝙚𝙗𝙧𝙖𝙩𝙚, 𝙄 𝙘𝙖𝙣 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙬𝙞𝙡𝙡 𝙨𝙚𝙡𝙛-𝙫𝙖𝙡𝙞𝙙𝙖𝙩𝙚,”
“𝙒𝙝𝙚𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙧 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙙𝙤, 𝙤𝙧 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙙𝙤𝙣’𝙩, 𝙢𝙮 𝙙𝙧𝙚𝙖𝙢𝙨 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙫𝙞𝙨𝙞𝙤𝙣𝙨 𝙬𝙞𝙡𝙡 𝙗𝙚 𝙖 𝙧𝙚𝙖𝙡𝙞𝙩𝙮,”
“𝙒𝙝𝙚𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙧 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙘𝙝𝙤𝙤𝙨𝙚 𝙩𝙤 𝙙𝙚𝙗𝙖𝙩𝙚, 𝙄 𝙬𝙞𝙡𝙡 𝙣𝙤𝙩 𝙬𝙖𝙞𝙩,”
“𝙒𝙝𝙚𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙧 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙨𝙘𝙧𝙚𝙖𝙢, 𝙤𝙧 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙨𝙝𝙤𝙪𝙩, “𝙄 𝙖𝙢 𝙘𝙤𝙢𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙤𝙪𝙩.”
May you refrain from giving someone else so much power over your life. Don’t lose yourself or your focus just because someone doesn’t see you or your worth; believe in yourself, do it yourself – even when this means making mistakes, learn from those mistakes, and show up as the powerhouse that you are as you enjoy the future you created for you.
Stop waiting for validation from others, stop waiting for people to appreciate you, stop allowing people to tell you what you are worth, stop waiting for people to open doors for you, and stop giving people the power to determine your future.
